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Remembering to Take Your Birth Control Pill[January 4th, 2007]Oral contraceptives (aka The Pill) are an effective form of birth control if you take them properly. However, some gals do forget them or are inconsistent when taking them which totally puts them at risk for unintended pregnancy. Here are a few suggestions on ways to help you to remember to take your birth control pills.
If you keep forgetting then perhaps oral contraceptives are not for you. See your doctor discuss alternatives (such as NuvaRing or the Patch). If you do miss a pill please follow the package’s instructions and just to be safe use a back method like condoms. I would love to hear from readers with their suggestions on how they remember to take their birth control pills. Seska Lee back to top - back to sex tip archive Negotitation[January 25th, 2007]One standby rule my husband and I have when it comes to negotiating the choices we make in our sexual relationship is that it takes 2 ‘yeses’ and only 1 ‘no’. Of course, we discuss things before we come to a decision. We try to look at ourselves and see where any fear, jealousy, and resentment comes into play. We try to work through those negative feelings, but we also understand that the process cannot be rushed or pushed. Just because you acknowledge a negative feeling it does not mean it disappears. Sometimes as we go through this process we miss out on opportunities because one of us is not comfortable with the situation. It is an illusion that within a open relationship you can have it all, do it all. To expect that from your partner or from yourself is unrealistic. Want an example? James requires a different connection, a different atmosphere in order to hook up with someone than I do. I did not understand how he, as a man, did not have sex with the women who wanted to have sex with him. I used to encourage him to go for it, even nag him. I did not respect his ‘no’. I do now, thank goodness. Just because something was OK for me did not mean it was OK for him. I had to reassess my expectations and respect his own boundaries and desires. Seska Lee back to top - back to sex tip archive Supporting Young People (with regards to their sexuality)[February 15th, 2007]Occasionally I get emails from parents who are unsure of how to deal with young people’s sexuality. They are unsure of how they should talk about sex with their children and teenagers. They want their children to get accurate information, but are uncomfortable bringing it up. Or they do not want their children to have sex before they are ready, but do not want to be harsh in telling them to just not do it. They know doing nothing, saying nothing is a big risk. Here are a few suggestions from Scarleteen founder Heather Corinna…
For more information for parents click here. Donate to Scarleteen - Where Your Money Will Go Seska Lee back to top - back to sex tip archive Dirty Talk[April 9th, 2007]If you are interested in exploring dirty talk while having sex but feel shy or self-conscious, try using someone else’s words to help you break the ice. Find some written text that you find sexy and take turns reading it aloud with your partner. Saying someone else’s words can be easier than coming up with your own. Some good places to find written erotica are Ruthie’s Club, Heather Corinna, and the book Best Women's Erotica 2007 by Violet Blue. Seska Lee back to top - back to sex tip archive Anal Recommendations[June 15th, 2007]Do your homework before you have anal sex. Based on my experience a porn performer it seems there are many viewers who have some preconceived notions about how easy anal sex can be. Just shove it in. There might be some men and women who feel comfortable doing that but I think they are in the minority. To have safe and pleasurable anal sex it best to be prepared and to take your time. Pick up a book such as Tristan Taormino’s TThe Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women. Whatever your gender it is a good book with great advice and information. Seska Lee back to top - back to sex tip archive Mixing it Up[June 21st, 2007]Some advice about thrusting from Hot Sex: How to Do It by Tracey Cox…
Seska Lee back to top - back to sex tip archive Vaginal Depth[July 12th, 2007]This tip is definitely from personal experience. I think it is best to consider depth, shape and positioning when it comes to vaginal penetration. One size does not fit all and neither does a thrust. The average vagina is about 4-6 inches deep. It can expand with arousal but it is not an infinite space. There is an end to it and some thrusting can go too deep or be too hard. Being repeatedly smashed in the cervix is rarely enjoyable. Sometimes a gal’s menstrual cycle can come into play – making her more or less sensitive. Different women like different amounts and different styles of thrusting. Depending on the size and shape of your cock certain positions can get uncomfortable while with others the gal can handle a lot more pressure and penetration. As a guy you need to take these things into consideration. The best way to figure it out? You ask her. Seska Lee back to top - back to sex tip archive Vibrator Intensity[August 1st, 2007]When choosing a vibrator it is important to consider a few different factors. Intensity is a major one. Different vibrators have different intensities. For example, the Hitachi Magic Wand (an electric powered one) is the most intense one I have ever used and it seems that when I orgasm using the sensation is so strong that I do not feel every quiver and quake as I do when I use my fingers or a less intense vibrator. It is almost overwhelming (but still pretty darn amazing). My Natural Contours Petite (a battery powered one) is much less intense. With its subtler vibrations I find it takes me longer to get off. I have to be patient and vary my hand placement so that it presses more strongly against my clitoris. For those women who need less vibration this is an ideal vibrator – especially because of its shape which makes it quite comfortable to use. For more information on selecting a vibrator check out the vibrator guide at Come As You Are. Seska Lee back to top - back to sex tip archive Modern Safer Sex Guide[November 14th, 2007]Violet Blue has put together a free download of her Modern Safer Sex Guide. Her overview of sexually transmitted infections and risk reduction practices is terrific. Not out to scare you, Violet is about being sensible and sexy. Might seem like oil and water to you, but to me taking care of my partners and myself is a turn on. The zip file contains the information in three formats (pdf, txt and pdb) so you can have easy reference to the information when you are on the go. Just load it up into your mobile device and you're off! Seska Lee |
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