Sex Drive & Medication

How can you turn on your husband when he is taking medicines that kill his sexual appetite?

Sincerely,

Paula

Low sex drive is not new, but as the general public ages and medications become more popular we are learning that decreased sexual energy as a side effect of medications is quite prevalent. For example, certain common antidepressants and blood pressure medications are known for this. Birth control pills can also affect sex drive.

If the physical impulse to have sex is not there due to the use of a specific drug, seduction methods or enticement tips will not be of much help.

Sexual arousal depends on a mind-body connection and if one or the other is affected then getting in the mood will be challenge even if one's partner is looking and acting like their ideal sexual partner (all sexy and hot like if you know what I mean). In fact, the mind may become quite used to the body not feeling the urge for sex and that can make the situation even worse. He may be dealing with his own feelings of frustration and disappointment.

It is essential that your husband go see his physician and discuss with him/her to see if a different dosage or a different medication can help. He should not stop taking his medication without speaking to his doctor first.

As for your side of things it is important that you be patient and understanding of your husband's medical condition and the side effects he is dealing with, but that does not mean you have to accept the situation as is. Educate yourself as to what are his medical options. Talk with him about how you can deal with this as couple. Read up on the ways couples can deal with differences in libido. There are many books out there that deal with this subject.

You should also figure out what you feel is missing. If it is sexual release you seek then consider masturbation and fantasy. They are good tools to deal with physical urge for pleasure and orgasm. If you are missing the intimacy that sexual relations offers you than consider non sexual forms of contact. Massage is a good tool to feel close to someone. So is taking a shower or bath together. Go for a walk together. Listen to music together. Spend time away from the television or other intrusions. One thing is for sure, don't be passive.

Seska Lee

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