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Approaching an Internet Porn StarI am curious what you, and most likely other women who have Internet sites, want someone to do who recognizes them in person. I suppose there are all kinds of situations, such as when they are with their husbands, with children, in a bar, in a checkout lane at a grocery store, and at a funeral. I don't think an etiquette book covers this subject specifically. Therefore, I nominate you as an expert on the subject. Do you prefer that they keep quiet, acknowledge the fact, or something else? Thanks in advance for responding. Keep smiling! Jim Good question Jim! I think it depends on the individual. Some Internet porn performers go to great lengths to hide exactly where they live and keep their everyday life separate from their porn activities. Granted, I do think it is to be expected that people will discover what you do and to be prepared for that. I think it is a bit of denial to think you can work in the porn industry, even just doing webcam shows from home, and not have people one day recognize you or discover what you do. Nevertheless, if the woman happens to live in a small town I think the kind thing to do is not to approach her. If she is with other people, other than other Internet Amateurs and her spouse (if he is involved in the site), it is also probably best not to speak with her as she might not have told these people what she does. It goes without saying if she is with children or people who look like they might be her parents, do not go up to her. If she is dealing with a sensitive situation, say at a hospital or funeral, also do not approach her. The last thing she wants to deal with then is anythign related to porn. Now some Internet porn performers are very open about what they do. They meet their fans at bar meets and public events. This is the best time to chat with them, but often they are also comfortable when people approach them when they are out in public. When approaching someone who works in the porn industry be discrete,
but relaxed and casual. I had someone whisper to me that they knew me
and didn't say much else. It was kind of creepy. I would have preferred
if the person had spoken in a more normal tone of voice. After saying
they Do not follow the person around. I also had that happen to me. I was doing errands and the person followed me as I did them and stopped to speak to me at each one. It was excessive and nerve wrecking. If you do feel shy or it is not the right time to approach an Internet porn performer I think it is fine to email them and say you saw them. Ask them if you ever see them again if it would be OK to approach them and say hello. They will let you know their own comfort level. Some performers like to keep their relationships with fans in the virtual world of the Internet and it is best to respect their comfort level. Also, you do need to be careful not to go up to the wrong person. Some people have recognized me when it in fact was not me at all. I get an email later saying they saw me somewhere I never had been to. I wonder what the woman who was approached thought was going on. Seska Lee |
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